Relationships

I would like to start this page out with the quote from the assignment and I looked up the definition of relationship.  This helped me in distinguishing in what to post.

"Human relationships, and the effects of relationships on relationships, are the building blocks of healthy development" (Shonkoff & Phillips, 2000, p. 4).

Relationship is defined as a

·      connection, association, or involvement.

·      connection between persons by blood or marriage.

·      an emotional or other connection between people: the relationship between teachers and students.

·      a sexual involvement; affair.

Retrieved from http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/relationship, July 7, 2012

Importance of Relationship(s)

Relationship is an essential part of the puzzle in life to create balance and understanding to build ones own self-esteem and inner security of who they are and what their purpose is. 

Relationship is important to me because it builds a sense of trust and security that someone might be in your life to share good times, challenging times, or just continue to cheer each other on the make those challenges and balance out life.

Throughout my life I have created many relationships and have hurt many relationships.  I create relationships every day throughout the nation with child care providers, agency leaders, administrators and advocates.  Working two jobs in two different fields I create relationship with many people.

Relationship has been a challenge for me.  I feel you first have to have a bit of confidence and trust in yourself first in order to create relationship.  I have learned through the years that some of that is true. If you want to grow and expand in life you must create relationship with different aspect of life.

I have relationships with many, however they are not all close. Most are friends, acquaintances.  It is important to have the relationship.  At he time I create relationships is when I am in need of support or finding out what this person is about.

My boss, friend, mentor, and leader are an important part of my life.  I met her back in 1994.  She was in the child care field and I took a class from her.  I wanted to know her more so I went out of my way to ask more and more questions about her and volunteer information about myself both in business and personal life.  Through the years we have continued this relationship.  We have had hiccups, however, I feel that there is respect and trust that this relationship will continue to grow.  It is important, as I have learned much from this lady.  I believe I would not be in the position or involved in the field if it was not for her coming into my life. Her knowledge, passion, sense of humor and compassion is irreplaceable.  There are many challenges, there are disagreements of opinions and I know I get mad and frustrated.  Something that I have learned is that “you pick your fights and that it is alright to disagree”.

My relationship with my children has been challenging.  I think that we all assume because we gave birth to these cute children that they will automatically have a relationship with you.  I know that when each one of my children was born I formed a different relationship with each of them.  By talking, laughing, listening, keeping secrets, telling secrets was very important part of these relationships.  The challenges grew as they grew older.  Freedom of choice can hurt or make a relationship.  Losing trust from one or both parties can be a learning experience, both in a positive or a negative way.  Right now with the different choices we have all made, relationship with my children is very weak.  It hurts; however, I have learned much and just have to let it be in the hands of the Lord.

Which brings me to say that I have made a relationship with the higher being.  Seems that we fight and argue much.  However, having this relationship with my Lord gives me peace and serenity at times.

I know that I have relationship with many; as I write this blog article I see that I do not have much that are real close I do have hundreds throughout the nation.  Most are related to work in the child care field.  It is important that I have these relationships to create and hear different views of how things are done.  I learn so much from having sincere and trusting relationships.  These are people that I can fall back on.  I know that with relationship it is a two way street that we all learn from each other.

One relationship I have not succeeded at is with a partner (male).  I have had three close relationships and I am still wondering what could have been different or what I could have brought to the table to make them work.  I know that I am a people person and very curious and I feel that I have many experiences to share that all can learn from and that is what I am seeking in creating relationship.  Too create that win for all.

In my professional business with children I always create a close relationship with the families and children.  I feel if I do this I can teach not only to the child but to the family as well and in turn they teach to me.  I always have said, “I always learn so much from children and their families”.  I think that this is true relationship.